January 14, 2016, 43 years since I married the husband. What have I learned in all this time?
There are always new things to discover in a relationship, new ways to look at old things.
It is better to work on familiar problems with a person you know and trust, than to start over from zero with someone you don’t know.
The husband and I are both persons before God first, then we are a couple.
Praying for my husband gives me a whole new reason to be interested in his growth.
Praying with my husband, before God, is the safest way to be vulnerable.
Letting the culture tell me what to expect from marriage is a big mistake. Every couple I’ve known is unique.
If I have to have things done my way, just do them and be glad.
If I want help I must be willing to let him help in his way and be glad.
We were not brought together because of the things we have in common but because of our complementary differences.
Bad feelings change over time.
Good feelings change over time.
Being in trouble together brings us closer, thankfully.
Nothing makes it easier to forgive than needing to be forgiven, but don’t keep score.
It is okay to take care of myself and avoid the martyr complex. I am more fun when I’m having fun.
Asking kindly for things works really well.
I say I have learned these things, but actually, I’m still working on many of them and seeing progress. God has given me marriage and family as a school. There are “treasures” of learning as a result of keeping covenant over time – I am humbled and blessed to be in a safe and loving relationship that allows me to learn and grow spiritually. Thank you, Dennis, for being a faithful man who has never held me back, never “lorded” it over me, never intentionally been unkind. I would marry you all over again.
Love, the wife.